Every day this week, I have sat down to write this same post, and have come up with nothing. It seems my thoughts are intact, until I sit down in front of the computer, and am faced with the white screen staring back at me. Which is where I wait, somehow, anticipating the thoughts to magically appear. But that obviously hasn’t happened. I get distracted, sidetracked, or hauled off to bigger and brighter.
What I wanted to talk about was Josh, and his diagnosis. What I wanted to say was that he is more than what he has been diagnosed with, but what I got was an empty mind, with no thoughts whatsoever until I left the computer.
When I did have said thoughts intact, I began feeling guilty, over the fact that so much emphasis has been placed on Josh lately. Every post has some form of Josh strewn around in it. Some rant, question, or frustration that has come out of trying to understand this kid. In a sense, I wondered if I was somehow pushing the older two out. Not only here, in writing, but in life as well. All those thoughts began coming back, and I heard numerous people telling me over and over again that accepting responsibility of Josh would only compromise what little hope the older two had at a successful future. Am I somehow not offering them the best, by assuming responsibility for Josh as well?
Its not like just recently, since getting a diagnosis on Josh, have people started questioning. There has always been something. Someone. Somehow. Some problem, that has kept people from laying off my case about the well being of the kids.
This week, I was thinking about Josh, in the context of somehow “Ruining” Madison & Dylans future. I watched him differently, as if somehow in the blink of an eye, he would have hold of their futures, and have them ripped to shreds. Was it possible? I looked at him through a different perspective, the outsiders perspective. Trying to see what they saw, if anything, in him. What harm did they see? Was it something I didn’t? I looked at him as more than my nephew, more than a little boy who I love the same as the rest of them, I looked at him as a possible threat. The way, it appears everyone else sees him as.
The thing is, Josh is more than “Autistic” he has more than “Autism.” He has potential, a personality, an identity. He has a future, he has hopes and dreams. He has ideas. He is a human, a boy. He is growing and changing. He is a smarty pants, who often lands himself in situations he really shouldn’t be in. He is Josh. He has a name. Hes a nephew, a son, a cousin. He is smart and funny, stubborn, and shy. He is more than what you see, and goes way beyond the surface level.
But the sad part is, not many choose to look beyond the label, beyond the box he has been placed in. They don’t look past the surface, and instead…get hung up on the one word “Autism.” They back away, as if it is somehow contagious, they stare confused as if it somehow is a complex matter that on a genius could understand. They don’t see him for who he is. They don’t see the Josh…and that, is sad.
Im not trying to say that he doesn’t have issues, he does. Many of them. What Im trying to say, is that he has enough issues, without having to worry about the way people view him, about being ashamed because he stuggles with a problem that other people don’t.
I think its sad, however, that more people cant seem to look past the box that they so badly want to put people in. I think its sad that they cant see past his label, and into the real person…I think its sad, but they are the ones that will be missing out.
Years ago, before Autism was even thought up of in our lives, someone told me that I shouldn’t take on the kids, that if they were to live with me, I would somehow compromise THEIR lives. Their futures. That I would somehow damper their potential. And there for a while, I believed them. I knew (and know) I cant give them the best, or the biggest. I know that I cant offer them name brands, and the most expensive. But what I find odd, is that now. Its not me who is ruining their futures. Its Josh.
A five year old little boy, who wants nothing more than to spend the next 10 minutes with his hero’s…and after that, he doesn’t care what happens.
A boy – who loves to scream, make noise, and drag his bear around. A boy who loves animals, cold peas, and books but hates water, new places, and most people. A boy who can make just about anyone laugh or embarrass the heck out of them, who attends school, is learning to interact with other people and happens to have autism.
His name? Is Josh.
His diagnosis? Autism
His personality, attitude, etc? Limitless
Filed under: People
My mom is coming up, with really short notice. After initially freaking me out a few days ago, she changed her tickets, and will now be arriving on Monday.
Someone asked me if I was “Ok with that.” A question I didn’t answer. Because I have to be, because its happening, and if Im not ok, well then…yea.
So Monday my mom will show up.
And spend what she calls some “Much needed” time. Although, I prefer to think of it as, time. Wasted time.
Among other things, this means I have to clean, and stuff, and hide, and run, and scream, and well, all that other good stuff that comes along with having an unexpected visitor who you really wish would remain just that.
Until then…
This morning I read a very thought provoking post over at Joys autism blog, where she mentioned that autism was something she was thankful for. It inspired some thoughts of my own, that sort of took off.
I am often guilty of swinging back and forth on my thoughts about autism. I often get upset that Josh has autism, knowing who he was before, and knowing the things he now struggles with. But then I get to thinking that he is who he is and that I should be accepting, and I am. I really am. Despite my latest rants on how much I hate him to have to struggle.
Is it possible to be thankful for something that causes Josh to struggle with so many different things?
A few weeks ago I wrote about a conversation I had with a man who said that when he feels down, he likes to look at special need peoples lives and think “Atleast I don’t have their problems” and then continues to feel good about himself. The mere thought of that makes me sick. Not just because you are making yourself feel good at another persons expense, but because often times special need people are looked at as enjoying life less, because of a certain disability. When in reality, they are most often happier than we as “Normal” people are
The word normal, is so misused, not only by myself but from others as well. What defines normal? What IS normal, why is normal so important? Why do we (or I) feel the need to be this alleged “Normal?”
Since getting Josh back, there have been a number of things that I have learned, and been taught. I like to think I have a different outlook on things now, but I don’t know how much of that would be true. I still find myself worried about what other people might think, not so much about us, but about Josh. I want him to fit in, and not have to worry, but on the other hand, I want him to be who he is, and if this is who he is, then that is ok.
Ive often wondered where the line is. How far is too far. Is getting him therapy, wrong? Is it somehow saying I don’t accept him, and he needs help? Help, for what? To “Fit in?” Why then, have I spent the majority of the year telling Madison that its ok NOT to fit in. That she doesn’t have to “Blend in” with the rest of the kids, and act just like them? Whats different about Josh?
I want him to grow up. I want him to be happy, healthy, and all that other stuff that factors into a somewhat “Normal” childhood. But why “Normal?” What do I see in “Normal” that I want for Josh? For Madison or Dylan for that matter?
Which brings me back to that word, the word that I misuse, and overuse. Normal.
Years ago, way back when, is that what I consider to be normal? When Emmy passed away, everyone told me that I would eventually return to being “Normal” but what struck me as odd, every time I was told that was the fact that I was being told I was somehow…NOT normal. That somehow, loosing my daughter turned me into a not normal, person. I was told that eventually I would find a NEW “Normal” which is something that has taken me years to understand. I don’t want to go into all the details now, but what Im trying to say is that everyone has their own definitions of being normal, and what normal is.
I can look back through my life and find different times when I honestly thought I was normal, where other times I would yell “WHY CANT I BE NORMAL.” What strikes me as odd now, is that I still wonder the same things. At certain times in my life, I think “Finally, Im normal” and at other times I wonder “Why cant we just be normal.” I guess to me, normal is a life without so many ups or downs. Which, who, really, has that?
I do accept Josh, and I don’t want him to change, just because he doesn’t fit in. I don’t want him to change because someone else wants him to. I don’t want him to think something is wrong with him, because nothing is. I want him to go, as far as he can go and not any further. Just like with Madison, or Dylan, I want him to succeed. But I don’t want him, or them, to ever be pressured into being someone that they arent.
Josh has a lot to learn, a long ways to go. But you know what? So do I.
I didn’t fight this long to get Josh back, just to try and change him into who he isn’t. I fought this long to get him back, so he could be who he is, without having to worry, or wonder…and while a lot of the time, Im guilty of swinging back and forth, wanting him to be this or that…I hope that he grows up to be who he is, and not who I, or anyone else, want him to be.
Is it possible to be thankful for a kid who finds happiness out of the small simple things? Who enjoys life, who is (mostly) happy, healthy, and growing by leaps and bounds?
…so yes, as the month slowly approaches thanksgiving, I hope I can honestly say without a doubt that I am thankful for Josh (and Madison and Dylan too!) and autism.
Filed under: Molly, The kiddos | Tags: disconnected & random, Josh, My thoughts
Everyday, after Josh gets out of school, we have about 2 hours before Dylan comes home, and another ½ hour or so, before Madison shows up.
People often have told me that Josh wont ever be like “Other kids” and most times, Im ok with it. Do I really want him to be like “Everyone else”, what IS the real definition of normal? Yea, I trip just about every other day, over some stupid comment, or thought that has crossed my path. But for the most part, I really am ok with him. Being who he is. How he is. Im pretty much happy to have him here, to have full custody of him, to not have to have him worry about living with his dad, or being sent around to different homes. To have him healthy, and mostly happy. Most times, that is enough. Even though it seems that as of lately, things have been negative, things have been pretty good.
Really. Shocker, I know.
For the most part, we are striving to put the pieces back. Not how they were, but trying instead to find where they belong now. Not trying to recreate the past, but trying to put the pieces where they need to be, for what they all the “New Normal.” Which is something I often, despise.
I don’t want the new, I want the old. But I know I cant have the old, and the only way. The ONLY way to move on, is to accept that…and move on.
It hasn’t been easy. Its been far from easy. We arent there yet, wherever there is. But its ok. Really. Were here. Where we are, and that is ok. It has to be.
Sometimes it takes more convincing. More convincing myself that it IS ok, that THIS IS ok, that it IS ok. I have to remind myself of that quite often…because a lot of the time, it just doesn’t seem ok. It just doesn’t. Nothing seems right. Most of the time, everything seems quite off.
But it is ok. Really.
Molly used to wait at the window, for the kids to come home. The hour after her nap, and before the kids came home, often seemed the longest. When she would sit at the window and whine, and ask what time it was, if it was time, if she could go, what time it was, if it was time, and well, you get the idea. At 3:15 I would fight her into her shoes and coat, open the door and watch her coat come off as she ran her heart out to the bottom of the hill, where she would wait.
It was the perfect combination. She got her freedom, I was able to watch her.
Most days she would throw rocks, kick the dirt, pick leaves, throw them in the air…but some days, she sat still. Waiting. As anticipation built inside. She sat on a rock at the bottom of the drive way, thinking she was free. That she was so big, waiting for the bus. Alone.
When the bus would come, she would jump, and I could almost hear her scream. The kids would run off and give her the hug she would be waiting for, and together, they would race up the hill and into the house.
It was the 15 minutes that she looked forward to everyday. Every single day, she would wait. She would get excited, ditch her coat and run. Run. Run.
Yesterday I took Josh out to meet the kids. We walked a few yards away from the house and stood at the main road waiting for the bus to show up. I don’t know if he really understood what we were doing, but he got the idea when the bus showed up (after initially freaking out) that the kids were home…and just like with Molly they ran off the bus and gave him a hug. The hug he had been waiting for all afternoon.
This afternoon, as the time got closer for the kids to come home, he brought me his coat.
And a thousand and one thoughts ran through my head as I helped him get his shoes on and walked him down the road, to get the kids off the bus.
Filed under: Emmy
…and just briefly I find myself wishing.
Wishing my way out of this “New life” that has been created. This “New normal” That has become, well, normal. Wishing myself back, into those days before staring into deep blue eyes, and a big smile would make my spine tingle. Wishing myself back into those days where her smile could light up my day, not break my heart…all over again.
I know I should be happy, and I am. Really, despite the looks of things lately, I usually am fairly happy. Able to see through the dusk, and dark days and into the bright future where these kids lives will eventually take them. But some days, well, nights, its just not enough. When the house is quiet, and the toys are still, when the floor isn’t crawling with action, and yelling and laughing isn’t distracting me. When things are still, and quiet…
I find myself where no parent wishes to be.
Alone.
Because no one, can ever fill the hole that belongs to her.
I miss her so much, that sometimes she seems so close. Sometimes, I think that if I could just close my eyes long enough, and hold her close enough…that maybe, just maybe, she will come back. That if I turn around three times, sit down once, before opening my eyes, that maybe somehow that will break the code, and she will be here.
But Im left with pictures.
Pictures that hold memories. Happy times. People who are still here, and still make life worth living. But pictures that hold empty hope. The hope that she still will come back. That her memory still is alive. That she means something to me, and that maybe, just maybe, that will be enough.
I used to wake up every morning, close my eyes, and force them open…and plead. That just for one more day, she could be here. That for one more day I could hold the little angel that made my life, worth living. That for just one more minute, I could hold her, love her, hug her…
I wake up now, knowing that shes gone. That shes not coming back, and that it has to be ok.
Because I have three reasons to get out of bed, and go on with the day.
…and most days, it IS ok. It really is.
But some nights, when things are quiet. When my mind is silent. Her memory comes dancing in, and I find myself missing her…and wishing, once more, to hold her, and tell her…just how much she meant to me, something I took advantage of.
Instead, I will hug the kids extra tight, tell them I love them, and make sure I don’t have any regrets.
Because sometimes, living with regrets is the hardest, living with the guilt is hard, and living without her, is just too much.
Filed under: The kiddos | Tags: Dylan, Josh, Madison, Thats part of "Growing up"
*Pumpkin Gutting ahead*
Pumpkin gutting…
Is serious work.
Sometimes.
Happy Halloween from us, to you.
“But why….”
“I don’t know why”
“Why not…”
“Because I don’t know…”
“How come…”
“I. DON’T. KNOW. And if you ask that one more time…”
“Why…”
Sometimes I feel like the one asking the questions, especially when it comes to Josh, and autism, and all of this other issues that I cant even keep track of.
I never claimed to understand everything, especially not everything about autism. I don’t know if vaccines cause autism, I don’t know what the difference really is between certain types of autism, I don’t understand as much as I honestly should. Even though days after getting the diagnosis I bought every damn book recommended to me. I didn’t understand anything more after reading those books, and infact, was just more confused. Special diets. Vaccines. The wrong look. It seemed everything was pointed out as a factor for autism…what I was looking for wasn’t there. I wanted a black and white answer. A finger pointing THAT way, that said “Yes, this is a tried and true cure and cause for autism.” But I found none of that. Infact, I found nothing. Just a pile of books, a handful of unwilling therapist, and a kid who acted like acid was being poured on him every time it came to taking baths.
Of course, there were and are other factors. Such as the possible abuse that occurred at his dads. The PTSD the rest of the labels that I cant even keep track of, that constantly seemed to be changing. While I wanted black and white, cut and dry, I also wanted answers. I wanted to know why, how, when, where, what. I needed to know how to help him, when to help him. But at the same time, I wanted him to grow just like any other child. I didn’t want to give him a crutch to help him through life, didn’t want to disable him in the areas he was capable. I wanted clear lines drawn, not invisible lines that it seemed I was constantly tripping over daily.
Its been a few months since those initial diagnosis’s were made. During these past few months we have covered large areas of ground, perhaps too quickly. Perhaps the state was too eager to get his case out of the system, or I was too busy looking for answers that simply didn’t exist. Maybe we were all focused on the wrong things, money, therapist, help, options, etc. Instead of focusing in on what and who really mattered: Josh.
I don’t honestly know…but I sure wish I did.
Sometimes I just want to sit down and ask: Why. Why not. How come. Why.
Sometimes I want to know. Dammit. I want answers. I want a reason. I want a clear, cut and dry yes or no. I don’t care how far out there it is, as long as it is concrete. Proven to be. And most of all, true.
I wish it were simple. Or atleast, not this complex. Maybe it is, maybe its just me, making it more difficult than it really needs to be.
I find myself getting frustrated lately. Its like I am constantly running into a brick wall. Like no matter what way I turn, there is a road block. Not just a stop sign, but a brick wall.
I know that Josh has made progress, but I don’t want him to have MADE, I want him to be MAKING. I want him to be “Caught up.” I want him to be, normal, sometimes. Can I say that? Can I say that I wish he didn’t struggle with the things he did? Can I say that I wish he didn’t NEED therapy to help with something that shouldn’t have happened? Can I say that I want him to live a normal life? Is it wrong? Because I get the feeling that it is. That Im not accepting him for who he is. That because I don’t want to accept the damage that has been done to him, that Im not accepting Josh, the way I wish others would.
My biggest fear, and yes, I realize this has changed weekly, is that Josh will grow up thinking that somehow, I havent accepted him. That he will spend his whole life trying to somehow win my acceptance. I know, I could argue why would he care what I think? But the more I think that, the more I realize he looks up to the people closest to him, he strives to please those he knows care about him, and he struggles to fit in.
Hes only five.
When is enough, enough for one child?
As if loosing his mom before he was even old enough to know what the word meant, wasn’t bad enough. His life has been uprooted so many times, that I wouldn’t be surprised if that is part of his problems, He didn’t have the stability he needed when he was really little, his dad abused him, and he has autism…and so much more…
When, is enough, enough?
When does a regular childhood fit into the equation? When does growing up happen? When does living that carefree life fall into place? When does going to the park become fun, not stressful, terrifying, and earth shattering? When does attending preschool become FUN?
I realize, Im all over the place tonight. I don’t make much sense. Im not trying to. I just, sometimes, wish I had answers. Answers. To questions that I wish I didn’t have to be asking. For a kid who deserves more than what hes been given. Im not asking for him NOT to have autism, Im just asking when is enough, enough? When will he get answers to questions he doesn’t even know to ask? When will it be enough, when will I stop asking questions that I have no business asking, putting more pressure on him, asking him to change, and be someone, or something he isn’t…and just accept that things are the way they are…and that it really is ok.
Ill do my best to explain it, with words that I can understand, which most likely will mean, little words. Small words. Words that…wont make much sense.
I have a friend, who I have written about once, maybe twice. Someone I met a long while ago, and consider to be among the few I consider friends. Last night she invited us down to her place for Thanksgiving. She said a few kind words about her family being our family, and even offered to make pie. I smiled. Nodded my head. Agreed that it sounded like a good, wonderful, fun, exciting idea…
But then it happened.
Like it often does.
I found myself wishing to be hugging the floor. Instead of making plans. Plans for the future. Plans to meet someone I have never met before. Plans. Any sort of plans. Plans for the holidays. But mainly, just plan…for something we might, I might, enjoy.
It happens.
More often than I care to admit.
I cant make sense of it, don’t claim to have it all figured out. Don’t even want to attempt to understand it. But sometimes, I wonder if I should even HAVE a friend, this friend…this person that I don’t really deserve to know. I find myself stepping back, second guessing, shutting down, and shoving away.
It happens.
Atleast to me.
I have the right mind to say yes, and go forward with it. To bring myself to the end of this life with worry and stress about it. Just because. But I wont. I know I wont. Which is the only way I can calm myself down sometimes, is talk to myself, and decide against doing something I already decided to do.
I don’t know why, I don’t know how. I just know it happens.
I don’t let myself, get close. To anyone.
And when I do, when I find myself slipping, and getting close, getting to know someone, and really starting to look forward to someone or something…I stop. I push back and run. Because of what it means, to me. In my mind.
If I get to close to someone, or something. If I let myself love, or like even. If I show any hints of enjoying anything or anyone…something in me snaps, and says “Woah, hold on, remember last time”…and I do. Remember, last time. I don’t want to go back, don’t want to relive the past. I don’t want to ruin anything, or anyone else again, and so I stop. I hold back, step back.
Its been a real struggle, this past year. To let myself, or force myself, rather. To love the kids. Something that should (and does) come so naturally…but is something that goes against everything, and anything I believe. Its been a real struggle, a real balancing act, a constant battle. Something I struggle with every day. How much should I love them? When is it too much? When will it harm them? It gets to me, sometimes. If I love too much, then something could happen. If I let them love, I could hurt them. I could make myself crazy over those thoughts. But the truth is, I already am. Crazy, that is.
When it comes to people, real people. Real friends, real honest people who want to love, and be loved. I find myself slipping back, pushing away. I find myself wanting to run. To let go, and just…forget.
It’s a daily battle. Its something that haunts me. That drives me nuts. That controls my life.
…and I will admit.
It is something that keeps me up at night.
Filed under: Good for nothing thoughts, People | Tags: Looking for answers
…or maybe I dont.
I don’t know why, but I always feel the need to be constantly apologizing.
This afternoon I called my mom again, and walked away wondering, once again, why…
Seriously. Why.
Why do I bother, every weekend, to go down, and fork out over $3 in quarters, while the kids sit in the car trying not to kill each other, while she informs me, of once again, how little I know…and I spent the majority of my time…apologizing. Over and over. For not knowing, or understanding. For not doing better, or being a better person. For not calling more, or talking more.
…and then I leave, and spent the rest of the week trying to pick myself up, before calling her again.
Im not trying to bash her, or talk bad about her behind her back. No. Im just trying to understand, and figure out just how much of what she says every week, is true.
Im not claiming to know everything, or be on top of things the way I should. I don’t mean to say that I have this all figured out. I don’t even mean to give the impression that I am doing a good job.
I think sometimes, I give the wrong impression, don’t ask me how. I don’t know. Maybe it’s the one thing Im good at, giving the impression that I am actually good at this. Im not sure. But people seem to be constantly reminding me that Im not. As if I don’t, somehow, already know.
Im trying, but Im flying by the seat of my pants, trying to figure things out, making spur of the moment decisions that come back to bite me later on. I try to figure things out, but I spent a majority of my time fixing mistakes, and patching things up…just long enough. I don’t know where she got the idea that I thought I knew what I was doing. Don’t know where she came up with the idea that she had to remind me, weekly. I already know. I already, know.
I know…
When Madison comes home in tears because someone said something mean, and I don’t know what to say except boil inside about the cruelty of kids who really don’t understand. I know.
When Dylans grades go up and down faster than the stock market. I know.
When I “Forget” to run Josh through his flash cards, and am in too big of a hurry to get him dressed in the morning, to actually give him the chance to learn. I know.
When I lay awake at night, wondering how to make the best of our time, what things to cut out, and how to save just THATMUCHMORE. I know.
When I look at the pictures of things I had, and no longer do. I know.
When I see other people. I know.
When people stare, and point, and try to make subtle comments to tell me that Im messing everything up. I already know.
When I finally attend a meeting with a teacher, and am told that I need to work on things better, starting with coming the first time Im told, not the third or fourth attempt…I know. I know. I know.
I already know.
When I have to decide if leaving the kids at night, or not being there when they get off the school. I know.
When people tell me, and I pretend I havent heard that before, just incase there is something I havent heard yet…I know.
When people point out the obvious, and state the simple. Over and over and over. I know.
I already KNOW.
I know I need to do better, work harder, try longer, give more. I KNOW. I do know.
If I appear that I don’t, its just because I don’t know what to say, or I think that maybe you will say it a different way, and I will be able to get some useful information.
But the truth is, I do know.
I know. Im sorry, and I will try harder.
Filed under: Emmy
October 22, 2002 – January 11, 2005
Happy seventh Birthday, Emmy.
I miss you like crazy, and love you forever. Keep smiling, little one. Keep smiling.
I sit here tonight, on the evening of what would have been your seventh birthday, listening to the rain fall and the wind blow. It much like it was the day you were born, a typical stormy October evening. I cant erase the thoughts, I cant help myself but wonder just what you would be doing, who you would be becoming, what your attitude would be, and all of that stuff that really doesn’t matter until you just don’t have it anymore.
I ask myself all the time, how I live without you? How do I live without the things that really made the world worth living in? How do I live without waking up and seeing your smile, or coming home to your hugs, or kisses? Why do I bother in this world, when your not here to bother for? I guess the answer would have to be, because I have to. It doesn’t mean that its been easy, its been far from easy. People say that with time, it becomes easier, and while that is true…there are some parts that time just wont heal. But that’s ok. It really is. Because if time healed everything, then it would erase your memory from my mind completely. Id rather live with the pain and your memory, than no pain, and no memory.
I miss you, so much little princess. I miss your smiles, your hugs, your kisses, your laugh. I miss all the things I took advantage of, all the things I thought I would have a life time to enjoy. I miss you, and who you would be today. I feel cheated sometimes, that I only got to know you for two years, but I feel luckier than ever to have been able to call you mine, for those two years. You gave me a reason and hope, when there wasn’t any to be found. You gave me someone to love when I didn’t think love was possible. You gave me a reason, when I didn’t think there was one. And in a way, you have given me strength to face this world alone.
Emmy, there are so many things I want to tell you, but I don’t think I could even do justice with words. I can only say I love you so many times before it turns into a cliché. I can only say how much I miss you, before it looses all meaning.
Life certainly wont ever be the same. It wont ever be how it was before you, because before you came, I didn’t know it was possible to love and be loved by someone so tiny. Before you, I lived for the future. The what could be, and what might be someday. It wont ever be the same as life with you, because life with you was filled with innocent bliss that came before knowing just how hard your world COULD be rocked. I lived in the present, with you, right then. It wont ever be the same as life after you, because when you left, your absence shook my world harder than it has been shook before. The first few years, I lived for the past. The what was, what I knew, and what I loved.
Its different now, little one. Life is different. Now, being able to look back, I like to think I can take the best of all three worlds. The living for the future, the importance of living in the present, and loving those you have now, and of course, keeping the past, because that past makes you who you are…but learning to keep the past, in the past, knowing that you wont ever be able to go back…and relive what already was.
My little angel, I miss you so much, and if I could…I would tell you just how much you meant to me, and how much I love you. I can only hope you know.
Ill love you forever,
- Dad
